The Swede’s life in New Zealand: “I was rejected because I am not New Zealander.”
When Asa Duffy moved to New Zealand from her native Sweden six years ago, she felt she had set foot on a friendlier, friendlier home.
During a holiday in New Zealand, she fell down in New Zealand, to her surprise, found themselves willing to leave everything for him, including government and her two daughters in Sweden as a press secretary for high-paying jobs.
“I moved for love, but I was also my dearest, and my daughter, 25 to 28, was far away from me.
That new feeling of love and excitement in a country “reminiscent of Sweden or even better” kept her in a pleasant place for a while. But before long, she began to see the typical amiability of new zealanders.
Despite years of international experience, she was unable to find work in her field.
“I think I was rejected because I’m not New Zealander and I don’t have the experience of a New Zealander,” she said. “I feel like an outsider and I don’t like the attitude of new zealanders to overseas people.”
Talking to other new zealanders, she realized that her situation was far from unique.
“This is a reality for many people from overseas, and our ability and experience are not important because you are from overseas.”
Her dream of a better life in New Zealand began to fade, she found herself more and more thinking and wider Europe, Scandinavia and now, she believes, in almost every respect than New Zealand.
“I now understand that this is a normal stage, when all of us go abroad… At this time, you only remember that your country is a beautiful place, you have nothing wrong, of course this is not true, but your culture shock caused by the illusion. ”
Living in Oakland, she has found a job, but has never been in her field except for a short contract duty.
“I have to find work anywhere: hotels, receptionists, carers, new zealanders don’t want jobs.”
She has now accepted her work, and as a natural optimist, she prefers to focus on the benefits of living here. She thinks there is a lot.
On social occasions, she found new zealanders easy to talk to, far better than the swedes.
When her husband went around talking, she was initially confused and wondered how he knew so many people.
“Then he told me that he don’t know them, that is the way they communicate with each other, as a Scandinavian, you usually don’t talk to strangers, if you do this, they will think you a bit funny or drunk it.”
When the supermarket cashier asked about her day, she thought it was strange and indeed intrusive. “I think I just want to be quiet. I don’t like being asked to be private.”
Now, she like kiwi fruit tend to chat with anyone and everyone – although she still thinks we tend to say our friends “dear” and “dear”, tell them we love them, and signed with the “xxxoo” a bit awkward words.
“We are constrained by such words – especially to friends,” I love you “is a very serious word for us… But I like to get these messages from my dear kiwi friends, and I still have a hard time answering the same tone.
Many new zealanders living in Scandinavia said in a recent article on life that they found locals more conservative than new zealanders, which assa would agree to. However, she believes that once you know the swedes, they are actually “more open”.
In other words, she agrees with what we call the general consensus among new zealanders that the friendship group that permeates there may be more difficult.
No one would have arrived at someone’s house without notice in Sweden, so he was surprised when people came to her house on Friday night. Her husband would ask what was wrong.
“I would think, ‘but I didn’t pack up, and I didn’t have enough food and wine. There’s nothing wrong with it, it makes you more social. ”
The Asa says some new zealanders in the Scandinavian region are due to locals, which may be partly due to the fact that they spend a lot of time indoors during the winter.
“We like to renovate our house. Most people build a new kitchen every five years. What else can you do in a long, cold, dark winter?”
She thinks the swedes is better than new zealanders can laugh at themselves, he said, pointing to a kiwi comedian Al Pitcher (Al Pitcher), he is very popular in Sweden, and “take the Swede” deeply.
“I want to do the opposite in New Zealand… But I think no one will laugh at your own here, new zealanders are very protective, if you say something negative, they will take it personally, they may be said ‘if you don’t like it back to where you come from “.
Asa said she is now very happy and positive about life in New Zealand and describes her job as a part-time caretaker as “very valuable.” She was very grateful to have the time to focus on the thing that oneself like, write to the Swedish national radio blog, reporting to the Swedish national radio of strange strange things, she still can’t understand how many people are walking barefoot) here.
She remembered walking into a post office in Oakland, and was marked by a “girl’s book” – mostly stories about princesses – and “boys’ books” about dragons and adventures.
“If it was in Sweden, there would be news the next day, because it was the opposite of Sweden – breaking the gender role.”
Like the new zealanders we speak of in Scandinavia, she points to Sweden’s generous parental leave policy (two parents totalling 480 days).
“Parents say this has changed the country’s attitude toward child care and gender.”
She also believes that many New Zealand women are not allowed to return to work after having children because childcare costs are too high.
“Politicians should think about it. I’m happy to pay taxes at this time.”
On the other hand, she thinks health care here and education are better than Sweden.
She also likes to find it easier to find a house, especially if you’re willing to stay flat with others – swedes are not. But, she says, home ownership is more affordable in Sweden because of low mortgage and interest rates.
All in all, asa felt lucky to be able to call the two countries home.
“I have two cultures… I have a very positive feeling about the future and understand that anything is possible.